A fashionable liberal cultural dictum states that congratulating a newly engaged couple should be avoided, because it draws attention to the failure of others to snag a spouse. “I absolutely hate wishing people congratulations on their engagement, and I won’t do it anymore,” writes Ashley Mateo at Redbook, adding that the word “congratulations” is

associated with an achievement, not a “grown-up decision made between two people who have discussed their relationship and decided that, hey, they’re clearly better together than not, so why not make it official?” “Landing a husband” is not something you “achieve,” Mateo reasons. What’s more, if you consider getting engaged an achievement, then clearly you view “not being engaged” as a failure of sorts. READ MORE